Now, it may be, as the age old adage would suggest, that we beware of the Greeks bearing gifts. But this should not, as recent experience so richly demonstrated, apply to the Russians.
Last Sunday my two young Russian friends, N and K, came to lunch. Or, to be truthful, they might have been invited for afternoon tea for, as always, and I have come to expect nothing different from them, they arrived late. And by late, I mean late, the sausages in roasted root vegetables prepared by Mrs. N having been nicely burnt to a cinder. However, any annoyance I might have felt was immediately dispelled for they presented themselves at the hall door swathed in armfuls of the most wonderful white lilies, a myriad of palest buds, tinged apple green, peeking through layers of crunchy, clear cellophane.
As I write the lilies, placed in tall glass vases, are slowly opening to fill the drawing room with the most heaven sent fragrance, an on-going reminder of a happy day spent in N and K's company. Indeed, it was particularly good to see them for, most sadly, I was unable to attend their recent September wedding held far from Moscow or London in the remote Provence countryside of southern France.
But this is to digress from my subject of lilies. Or rather, lilies as cut flowers. Just prior to the visit of the Russian delegation I found myself in Petworth, West Sussex, for the afternoon which, as many will know, is renowned first for the eponymous house, home to the Seventh Baron Leconfield but now owned by the National Trust, and secondly for its remarkable collection of antique shops.
In one of these, Brownrigg, if names are to be named, my attention was immediately taken with not one, but possibly five or more, large containers into which stem after stem of pure white Asiatic lilies soared upwards in ethereal beauty. Such style, and in danger of eclipsing the beautifully presented range of eclectic furniture and decorative items with which this shop is filled.
P.S. My picture shows my dear Russian friends, N and K, arriving somewhat unusually for the marriage ceremony on what I believe are called 'Segways', motorised wheels. N carries a bouquet of red roses to complement K's cravat.

104 comments:
Edith,
That picture is sublime. Now I know the perfect gift to offer when I am running late. Delightful post.
Dear Michael, Thank you for your very kind comment. I was, as you may imagine, delighted with the lilies and would have forgiven anything at that point.
Oh what a creative way to start a marriage ceremony. They really look nice in your picture. My best of luck wishes to the newly weds. In Malaysia, we too have couples taking their marriage vows in tractors, fire engines, diving underwater, on horseback and what next. I think lilies are the most beautiful tokens of appreciation and it will certainly melt any heart. Its lovely fragrance is a bonus.
Now they look like fun friends, especially when they arrive bearing white lily gifts. So glad to see this post Edith as I was only thinking tonight that I must email you to make sure you haven't boarded a QANTAS plane to anywhere...in which case I would have been quite worried! Phew, is all I can say :)
Dear Autumn Belle, Thank you for your comment. I did think that ariving on 'scooters' was a definitely different version of 'walking up the aisle', but, from what you have written, weddings the world over seem to be moving far away from the traditional.
Dear Kerry, Thank you for your comment and your concern about the flying. K and N are indeed great fun. I could imagine that you would get on with them as the proverbial 'house on fire'!! A Qantas plane....me....never....2hours is as much as I can manage without becoming completely out of control.
Dear Edith, I am taken with the photograph of your friends and how tiny they appear . . . even with the extra height of the 'two wheelers'. The aisle they have chosen to ride down is astounding. The clever way the hedges were cut off in the image gives the illusion of a grand scale or maybe they really are hugely tall. Wonderful entrance . . . as with greeting you at your door carrying "armfuls" of white lilies. It is just as well to accept our friends habits of being unable to keep time . . . I have come to suggest an hour earlier for certain friends to get them to arrive about on time. ;>) How lovely to create a similar flower display in your own home of one you had only just admired in the antique shop days before. Much happiness to the newlyweds!
Whoa! That's a fun way to arrive at one's wedding! Your gift of lilies sounds delicious. I do so love lilies. Wish we could grow them here.
Edith,
I should expect on less then a remarkable woman to have remarkable friends. If one is going to be arrive late then one must shower the hostess / host with gifts but white lilies. Oh, how wonderful for you to have the friendship of K and N. - G
Dear Carol, Thank you so much for your comment. What a good idea- suggesting an hour before the actual arrival time you expect.I might try that in future, but if K and N read this posting [which I suspect they might] then the 'game' would be up so to speak!!
Dear FG, Thank you for your comment. Fun perhaps but dangerous definitely. The hire of these powerful two- wheelers comes with a training guide...K and N had practised for hours the day before in order that they arrived at the 'altar' in one piece!
Dearest G, Thank you so much for your kind and generous comment. K and N are remarkable in so many ways...remarkably intelligent [ both high flying students of Moscow State University], remarkably kind and remarkably and utterly mad!! I love them both dearly.
The photo of your friends on segways for their wedding portrait is just delightful! There's nothing like the glorious scent of lilies wafting through a room. A gift of lilies would certainly dispel any lateness!
Thanks for your kind comment on my poetry today. xx
Yes, your delightful friends have chosen quite a unique and dramatic entrance to their wedding. You express so well how a floral arrangement can eclipse the most elegant room and add immeasurably to the atmosphere.
Dear Edith
You are very tolerant. However nice and charming people are, tardiness is not a trait that I could possibly accept on a regular basis. It says "you don't matter". It lacks respect. It's not acceptable. Of course there are exceptions as to why it happens, but never ever on a regular basis for anyone I know.
Dear Willow, Thank you for your comment. As you may imagine, countless hundreds of photographs had been taken, but this one had special appeal for me. It contrasts their youth with the age old avenue of trees, and captures the spirit of madness which they bring wherever they go!!
Dear Paul, Thank you for your comment. I had certainly never heard of a 'Segway' before and I am not sure if one has ever been used in a wedding ceremony. Perhaps it will feature in the next Segway advertising campaign?!!
Dear Columnist, Thank you for your comment. Under normal circumstances, I would agree with all your sentiments on lateness. But, somehow, in their case, I cannot be annoyed. I do wonder whether being late is something of an Eastern European trait, however, as in Hungary one can never be sure when or indeed if the invited person will arrive!!
That photograph is full of juxtapositions or contrariness (I can't seem to find the right word). Your friends N and K seem so tiny, almost insignificant amid the towering, all encompassing hedges. And yet it is their wedding day when the those two people have the complete attention of their wedding guests, and are larger than life rolling in on the segways. Not at all the traditional wedding entrance and yet all dressed up in suit and tie and white gown with red roses. Edith you certainly know some interesting people.
What an amazing photograph, Edith! And what clever friends you have. When we lived in Ukraine, we found out quickly about "Ukrainian time," which was quite different from our American idea of punctuality. If we wanted to have dinner at 8, we invited people for 6.
We have white Asiatic lilies in the garden. When they bloom, the whole yard fills with their sweetness!
Dear Patty, Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, I agree, the contrasts are what make the photograph so interesting and one can but wonder what all the guests [many of whom had flown in for the event from Russia] made of it all. I should think that K's grandmother in particular found it all most intriguing.
Dear Charlotte, Thank you for your comment. You have now convinced me that there is 'Eastern European' time...at least two hours behind the actual time of day and at least 50 years before the current day!!
I think your friends must be utterly charming to have presented you with armfuls of white lilies and to have had such a wedding. Life if full of treasures and sometimes they are the people we invite in, albeit even if they are a little late. :)
Lovely post!
hi edith,
i admire the way you can toss off their lateness. that drives me insane and i believe it to be the rudest thing to do to a hostess. but that is why i'm me and you are you. you can rise above these situations with grace whilst i stew in my own pettiness. ok, on to lillies, i simply love them.
~janet
I've seen quite a few Segways here in California, but never ones with a bride and groom astride! Fabulous!
Your friends sound delightful. Such a fun photo from the wedding. From your description, I can smell the lilies from here! Beautiful indeed. Enjoy the gift.
What a delightful image!
Your friends must be very avant garde...their wedding transport is quite shocking!
I myself would prefer a horse drawn carriage!
White lillies are truly exquisite, at least your late comers had the good graces to arrive with a gift, unfortunate that they were late for tea...the only thing I would find more frustrating would be to arrive and hour early before the hostess herself was ready to greet them.
I agree with others commenting, ask them to arrive next time at an earlier time factoring that they will arrive late!
Hi Edith...I'm happy to hear you had such a wonderful time with your friends! What a lovely and incredibly eye catching image of N and K on their wedding day. The wall of trees surrounding them is really quite impressive...I adore white lilies too. The fragrance is heavenly!
H.H.
Dear Ms S, Thank you for your comment. You are so right...for some people one can forgive almost anything...for others even the slightest irritation becomes an insurmountable issue! Charm, yes, they have it in armfuls!!
Dear Janet, Thank you for your comment. For my own part, I should hate to be late to anything. In fact, I am usually insanely early for everything. However, the young are a law unto themselves and I should not wish them to be otherwise!!
Dear Clare, Thank you for your comment. I had never seen a 'Segway' before, but from what my friends say they are very tricky to manoeuvre. What it can have been like driving one in a bridal gown [complete with train] I can but wonder!!
Dear Sherlock Street, Thank you for your comment. Yes, K and N are great fun, one never knows what they will be up to next. They completed the wedding day by jumping into the swimming pool of the Chateau at which the event was held........fully clothed in full wedding regalia of course!!
Dear Hostess, Thank you for your comment. What K's grandmother made of it all I cannot but imagine. They said that they wanted to 'push the boundaries of what happens at weddings' and I certainly feel that they were successful at that!!
To have friends that you lovingly call MAD is a delight to read
...I translate this to mean...full of life and laughter
rich in charater
with a dash of rascal
The only thing was the dinner ruined....next time serve sandwiches..and good coffee
and the lillies....they knew
I love the tone in your writing...
so fun
Dear HHR, Thank you for your comment. The grounds of the Chateau at which the event was held were extensive and beautifully kept. The avenue of trees made a marvellous 'aisle' and a large formally planted terrace was the perfect place for the Wedding Breakfast. Some other rather 'surreal' images were taken in a Bamboo grove....!!!
Dear Suz, Thank you for your kind comment. You are absolutely right about the 'touch of rascal', all rather exciting but sometimes somewhat unnerving!!
Your suggestion of sandwiches is a good one.....the only problem is that they are always hungry and they eat me out of house and home when they come!!
What elegant and unusual friends you have!
However, that said, even the most beautiful lilies would not mollify me. I am a hideous stickler for punctuality.
In Morocco the inshallah (God willing) attitude drove me mad with fury re plumbers and so forth.
I do not want my sink leak fixed if God wills it.
I just want it fixed.......
Well, maybe lilies would have improved my terrible temper somewhat......
Dear Edith,
If I had to choose, I would pick pure white lilies such as the Casa Blanca variety that I grew in my Chicago garden. Lilies thrived in the Midwest gardens of my gardening friends, and I miss those fragrant, sumptuous summer exhibitions.
Your friends sound like quite the charmers: Most definitely creative souls to have come up with Segways for their wedding.
I must agree, guests that show up late ... and that includes a few dear friends, are not appreciated at Chez Alice. Especially when 'she' has prepared a meal.
Dear Elizabeth, Thank you so much for your most amusing comment. In my youth I can recall getting into a rage at almost anything but, now, I have taught myself to 'stay cool' as K and N would no doubt say. However, tradesmen who do not appear either on time or ever..now that is worthy of its own posting!!
Dear Alice, Thank you so much for your comment. I agree, Casa Blanca is such a beautiful flower and the scent is almost overwhelming. The fragrance currently in my drawing room is transporting me back to those heady summer days, now sadly long gone.
You are right,perhaps it is on account of the fact that I have not slaved for days over a hot stove that makes me able to be so accommodating over their tardiness!!!
A most interesting day/topic, dearest Edith. N & K's wedding entrance photo, lovely and very untraditional as they both seem to be. Like you, I love pure white Asiatic lilies AND my quirky friends.
Dear Edith, The wonderfully expressive quality of your writing allows me to so clearly imagine you in your drawing room enjoying the fragrance of the lilies! Your friends sound lovely and worth the wait.
Dear Edith, You have such interesting, if dilatory friends. That photo of the happy couple is making me smile at the end of a rather bleak November day, and I can smell the heady fragrance of armfuls of lilies wrapped in crinkly cellophane. Lovely...
They arrived to their wedding on Segways? I love it! Lilies are so delightfully fragrant. They sound like fun friends.
I love lilies as a cut flower for the house. They smell so wonderful and provide a beautiful vignette that can be enjoyed for days and days.
I would love to have been at the wedding of N and K in France. it sounds like it would have been quite an interesting take on a very traditional ceremony. I wonder if they were late for their own wedding as well?
Dearest Joey, Thank you for your comment. Where would we be without our quirky friends? On time, for sure but without the frisson of excitement that comes with the unexpected.No, I should not wish to be without them!!
Dear Cat, Thank you for your very kind comment. Today, sadly, the flowers will be consigned to the compost heap but they have been wonderful, the scent invading all corners of the house!
Dear Cyndy, Thank you for your comment. K and N are unique in many ways, their habitual lateness being one of them. How they hold down two very demanding jobs I have no idea, but I suspect there is more focus when it comes to work rather than pleasure.
Dear Sarah, Thank you for your comment. Arriving to a wedding on Segways.....could this be a sub-plot in a novel?!! I am sure that the guests found it all rather surreal.
Dear Jennifer, Thank you for your comment. N and K wisely ensured that both they and their guests were staying at the Chateau at which the wedding took place. Time, therefore, had little significance and the wedding 'party' took place over three days. Oh, the stamina of the young!!!!
dear Edith, elegant friends, elegant flowers, but I don't think I would be preparing a hot meal for them.(the friends, not the flowers) cheers, catmint
Dear Catmint, Thank you for your amusing comment. You are, of course, so right. Salad all the way from now on....!!
If a picture says a thousand words a bunch of beautiful lillies say sorry in a thousand eloquent words.
I'm not sure I would have been so forgiving, though I should be living in Italy; Italians are actually rarely late for dinner invitations but for everything else they are.
Hello Edith,
I love the first photo and what a beautiful setting! They must be a lot of fun and have a great sense of humor. White lilies....I bet they were beautiful.
Hope you are having a good week!
Dear Christina, Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, I agree, beautiful flowers can say so much where words often fail. They certainly win over my heart!
I am interested to read that the Italians are always on time for food....if only the Russians were...but then Italian food and Russian food....that says it all perhaps!!!!
Dear Amy, Thank you for your comment. Yes, out of the many hundreds of pictures I was shown, this for me captured the spirit of my two friends and their definitely different wedding day. Romantic, mysterious and great fun. Perfect!!
That picture is adorable, Edith. Their ceremony must have been unique and memorable.
Oriental lilies are some of the best cut flowers. Fortunately the breeders seem to have been unable to breed their intoxicating scents out of them. I'm sure your display is lovely. :)
A definitely different entrance into the realms of marriage ~ hope that it is all smooth segwaying ahead for N & K. I have a 'thing' about punctuality and am not sure whether I would be as forgiving as you Edith, especially as lilies beautiful as they are, set me off on violent sneezing fits :)
Dear Edith,
Your friends N & K sound lovely....even though they were a little late !! I can only imagine how delightful their wedding was and fun too by the looks of it.
I often think that, any flower in abundance makes a wonderful sight. I can imagine that antique shop took on another dimension with the addition of vases of lilies. Such a beautiful flower. I think that I love them best when the buds are just about a third open.
I think that I now need to have a go on one of those Segways !!!! XXXX
Dear Meredith, Thank you for your comment. Yes, a very different wedding ceremony than one usually expects, but that was their intention. Lilies are one of my favourite cut flowers and do, as you say, always have the most wonderful scent.
Dear Anna, Thank you for your comment. N and K were teenage sweethearts so theirs is a most romantic story which I am certain will have a fairy tale ending and they will live happily ever after!!
How annoying that you have such a reaction to Lilies. They would not have worked as a peace offering for you!!
Dear Jacqueline, Thank you so much for your comment. Do really want to 'have a go' on a Segway?!! They look [and sound] to be such dangerous vehicles to me, and require a day's training with a qualified instructor before one is let loose on one. I look forward to seeing an 'action' picture on your weblog one day!!
A nice greeting with lilies! They are so fragrant. Glad you were able to spend time with friends. What a unique entrance to a wedding!
~ Julie
I think liles cover a multitude of sins. I just love the way they're so free with their beautiful fragrance.
You seem to have a constant flow of friends visiting from various exotic countries!!
I'm impressed....
Sarahx
show me a woman not sensible to flowers.
Laura
from Easter Europe
Dear Edith, I can see and smell the lilies! By the way, my youngest son owns a segway, and this was his primary means of transportation in downtown Atlanta throughout his college days at Georgia Tech. He continues to use it as he starts his career with Apple Computer in California. I have ridden the thing, and it is an easy (it only took me a few minutes to get the hang of it) and enormously fun way to get around.
Hi Edith, that's the best wedding entrance I've seen; a wonderful picture. And a charming gift to appease their hostess. Unfortunately I'm allergic to lillies, and sweet peas too, which I grew successfully this year in abundance only to find I cannot have them as cut flowers indoors which was the point in growing them in the first place!
Ah - white lilies - such beauty and fragrance! An elegant hostess gift…although late guests can definitely be an annoyance…yet, an armload of lilies is certainly reason to quickly forgive tardiness! How very charming is the photo of the two of them on their wedding Segways! Thank you, Edith, for this enjoyable entry…Cassandra ♥
I love lilies and have tried growing them in pots with no luck. I usually end up with so few in my garden after the squirrels and slugs that I wouldn't have enough for a bouquet. Sounds like a beautiful gift.
What a fun and original way to arrive at their wedding, looks like fun too!
Hi Edith, That does look like a lot of fun to ride in thoes if I only could keep my balnce. They look like they are having a good time. Thank's for stopping by and wishing you a great weekend...Julian
Dear Juile, Thank you for your comment. Oh yes, the scent of Lilies is very difficult to beat. I think that they are the most elegant of cut flowers.
Dear Sarah, Thank you for your comment. Although K and N are Russian by birth, they live in London and, so are frequent visitors. As you may imagine, the complications of holding a wedding in Provence were immense....but still, that, I believe, was part of the fun!!
Dear Laura, Thank you for your comment. How true....flowers can always weaken my resolve!!
Dear Deborah, Thank you for your comment. How amazing about your son, the Segway and your own travels about town on one. Now I shall have a picture in my mind of you disappearing into your 'Lady Garden' onboard a Segway and powering your way through the weeding!!
Dear Damo, Thank you for your comment. I know that N and K will be pleased that you were impressed with their unusual wedding entrance. And, how sad that you are allergic to both Lilies and Sweet Peas which have to be the most lovely flowers to have indoors.
Dear Cassandra, Thank you for your kind comment. The Lilies, the wedding photographs and endless chatter about the 'Big Day' quickly made the lateness and the burnt lunch insignificant!!
Dear Catherine, Thank you for your comment. I do love Lilies grown in pots but,like you, I have had mixed degrees of success. I tend now to just enjoy them as cut flowers from the florist as I adore the scent indoors.
Dear Julian, Thank you for your comment. I am sure that I should never be able to get the hang of riding a Segway, although I had no problem learning to ride a bicycle, so maybe one day.....
Dear Edith,
Lilies - how beautiful!
I think your friends were very brave to ride Segways to their wedding, especially since the owner of the Segway scooter company recently died in a freak accident after riding one of the machines off a cliff. Oh, dear ... I hope I haven't spoiled your lovely posting.
Pamela x
Dear Pamela, Thank you for your comment. What a tragic tale! When K and N were describing how they 'worked ' the Segway, all the balancing required and how fast they go I was alarmed. How N managed to control the machine with a wedding dress complete with train whilst holding a bouquet of red roses I shall never know!! It is, however, a jolly good job that you have to have training before you can be let loose on one.
Hello Edith, when my wife and I were married we arrived at the church in the back of a morris minor van, fortunately we were in love and considered the van to be most romantic...
I love lilies too Edith, not least because they always remind me of my late father whose favourite flower they were, that wonderful scent and the long lasting flowers, they were always a part of his summer garden.
Friends bearing lilies! Does it get any better than this? Have a wonderful Sunday, Edith!
Dear Edith,
How fun to have such delightful friends, albeit tardy ones. A bouquet of lilies by way of apology is quite creative. I cannot imagine being annoyed when presented with such.
I agree that sandwiches would be on the menu next visit. One can keep them fresh by covering with a damp paper towel and encasing in plastic wrap. Assuming of course that they will be late.
Dear Michael, Thank you so much for your comment. Well, of course, it matters not a jot how one arrives at one's wedding, what really matters here is how your love has clearly lasted over the years. Perfect!!
Dear Kathy, Thank you for your comment. I am so pleased that the Lilies brought back happy memories for you. Their scent always takes me back to the heady days of high summer, something which is so welcome on these dreary, wintry days.
Dear Teresa, Thank you for your comment. You are so right, dear Teresa, it cannot be improved upon.
An interesting way to arrive at one's wedding. We have a number of Russian friends living in Ilford and one could not find kinder and more hospitable people.
Dear Sandra, Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, definitely sandwiches next time. And, thank you, dear Sandra for the tip about keeping them fresh. Two hours after the expected time of arrival and the sandwiches will be curled up beyond recognition without the first aid treatment!!!
Dear Barbara, Thank you for your comment. Yes, dear K and N sound just like your Ilford friends...incredibly kind and generous.
A Russian wedding in Provence....? That must have been unusual - I guess the arrival set the tone!!!!
But I do mean unusual in a good way....maybe individual would be a better word!
Dear Sarah, Welcome back. Yes, K and N are very much individuals in all manner of ways and they wanted their wedding to be something that people would remember as standing out from the usual arrangements. They succeeded in my view!!
Dear Edith
Oh, what a lovely post once again! I can just imagine what those lilies must look like in the glass vase...and the smell...hmmm
I think your Russian friends, N and K arrived for their marriage ceremony in a unique and surprising way! So, out of the box and I love it!
Wish I could have you over for some tea one day...
Ixx
Good evening Edith
Your picture brought a smile to my face. I have never come across anything like this before. I think that arrival is something that no one attending will ever forget. I wonder if they had a particular piece of music to accompany their arrival?
Dear Ingrid, Thank you so much for your comment. Sadly, the Lilies are now over but the memory of them and their fragrance makes me smile still.
Tea....oh, if only, especially for a slice of your delicious looking cheesecake!!
Dear Rosie, Thank you so much for your comment. Yes, I must admit that it was a first for me too...but nothing that N and K could do can surprise me now....I think!!
As for music...I do not think that they arrived to musical accompaniment but they informed me that special lighting effects were installed everywhere so that dinner became an al fresco delight as if lit by a thousand stars!!
Edith, What a delightful post! I felt as though I was starting to read a wonderful novel and that the pages of the story of N and K must go on and on!And what a lovely photo. I am new to your blog and this is the first post I have read, but I feel already that you are quite an interesting person and a very talented writer!
Dear Edith,
Your Russian friends sounds like a very interesing couple. Late or not. Some times friends have their little faults but you still like them. I guess that is what friendship is about.
Best wishes,
Ingrid
Dear Egretta, Thank you so much for your most kind and generous comment. I am delighted that we have met through Blotanical and am thrilled that you have signed up as a 'Follower'.
N and K's life is very much the stuff of a romantic novel.....teenage sweethearts, soulmates through difficult times in Russia, striking out on their own in England......and so it goes on!!
I look forward to our continuing dialogue as your postings cover such an interesting range of topics.
Dear Ingrid, Thank you for your comment. You are so right. One forgives one's friends almost unconditionally. That is, as you say, what friendships are all about!!
Very nice wedding photo!
So nice they had such a good way to say sorry for being late
Ps: thanks for the comment on my blog!
Dear Fer, Thank you for your comment. Yes, I agree, I think that the photograph of them is fun and they both look so elegant set against the towering avenue of trees.
I am so glad that I have come across your weblog and look forward to future postings.
The teashop I will be visiting in Cambridge was rather nicer than the one last shown. Will be in another post.
Dear Barbara, Welcome back. The tea shop that you showed looked wonderful so I shall look forward to seeing a more superior one!!
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